|I was at my daughter's house for dinner.
After dinner we reminisced, remembering stories about our past and the
stories that were given to us by my mother and father, about their past.
After several stories that brought tears and laughter, my daughter remembered
particular stories my mother told and how she used to talk about "The
Curse." Well, I remember my mother's generation talking about "The Curse,"
but I thought they were referring to the inconvenience, etc. But, "No,"
my daughter said, "they were referring to the curse put on Eve in the
Garden." I commented on how tragic for the women of my mother's generation
to have felt that "Burden." So then we talked about the joy of "The Gift,"
and realized that our next generation children would create the next generation
of women and men for our family.
The Joy and the responsibility of motherhood is what I want to talk
about today. Having a child is the first step of being a mother. The
next step is raising the child. And, of course, the next step is reaping
the rewards, or receiving the grandchild that the child gives to you
and to everyone else.
Accepting the responsibility of motherhood and viewing it as a pleasure
gives new hope to the world. When we see ourselves as women creating
life, we can begin to value who we are and what we offer. When we view
ourselves this way, and accept that we are the keepers of life, then
we will not want to harm the life that becomes created within us, and
we will take full responsibility to guard the gate of creation using
the forms that have been given to us by Science and Religion, mainly
birth control and abstinence. With this perspective we will experience
a decline in the need to have an abortion. I believe that because life
has been so ruthlessly caste aside by many, countless times, it has
become more difficult for numerous women to conceive. As we understand
the joys of creation and respect our responsibility, we will see a rise
in "wanted births." What a pleasant relief this would be for our society.
Enjoy your children and celebrate when they become women and men and
join in adulthood. And give them the education and knowledge of the
responsibility of their ability to create. Blessings to all of you.
Diane Warren is on the Community Connections Women's Council and
is a therapist and teacher in the tri-county area. She can be reached